In this fast-changing world, everyone wants to be successful. They plan for long terms, invest a lot of time thinking about their future. We all have big dreams and we strive to achieve them. But even after giving our best, we couldn’t fulfil our dreams. People invested a lot of money and their age in order to build the infrastructure of their dream. But ultimately the work always stuck in progress and we drop our dreams and starts to fulfil other people’s dreams.
What happen?
We have dreams, big dreams. We plan for a lot of things. But when it’s the time to take the first step most of us get afraid of it. Because of many reasons risks involved, finance problems, no time to invest and etc.
Where we lack?
The answer you are thinking is
- I’m not having the potential.
- I am not deserving.
- Luck is not on my side.
- I am not ready.
Which is not true after all,
what you lack is motivation, the enthusiasm and the believe in yourself.
Motivation drives us to do extraordinary things and achieve the goals which seems impossible for us in starting. Now you are thinking If motivation is that helpful why we still not able achieve our dreams.
I’m stating the possible reasons:
- Lack of faith in our abilities
We all work hard to bring our dream true but sometimes even after giving our 100%, we fail. This starts us to doubt ourself, our abilities which therefore leads to de-motivation.
- Afraid of failures, due to the past failures
Often people face continuous series of failures in row. They become afraid to face anymore failures killing their motivation before they starts.
- Loosing interest
Children always crave for so many things at a time. They want a particular toy and after that they want another. Same happen with adults as well at a time they are so crazy about an idea. It looks like it will be successful but in between they loose their interest as another idea gets the attention.
- Dawdling habit
Not all of us are quick starters. Some people believe in spending more time before they starts to act. Often we see people take a lot of time but still are not sure if they wanna go for it or halt it, wasting an appropriate portion of the time. This kind of practise becomes habit for the people, even with a success plan. They often face failures due to their dawdling habit.
- Diverted to other things
We humans live in fast moving life. Wants to achieve a lot of things but with limited time and try to achieve multiple things. In this process we forget to perform with perfection and often face failures, which leads to de-motivation.
- Fear of what others might think
The biggest problem, in us is that we depend on other people’s judgement about us, about our work and to impress them we don’t pay attention to ourselves and often we neglects things we are best at and forgets that we all are unique, we must choose our paths and nobody can tell us what to do.
- Nervous/Stressed
Sometimes people gets too nervous while doing anything, we get afraid of future consequences before they starts off with their ideas even with a successful planning and abilities, they tend to make mistakes while they are performing not because they are not able but because they are over stressed and nervous of getting anything wrong, they loose their believe in their abilities and face failures.
These problems are common with all of us, in fact we all face them at each turn of our life, which brings me to the most important question of all
What we do if we loose our way?
To regain motivation in yourself, you can practise the following:
- Identify the obstacle
Before making any conclusions one needs to identify their reasons of failure, what happen, why things didn’t work out for them. The main focus here is that you are facing issues because you’ve handled problems before, don’t overlook them but use them as the means to boost your confidence and deal with the present issues.
- Take time to explore yourself
While people face fear, they forget about themselves, their accomplishments, their abilities and the only thing they remember is the failure. People need to explore themselves, why they fail and how they feels about it. Give yourself sometime, do things you love such as enjoying your hobbies, your passions. Get back on your feet and try again.
- Think positive
Often people are wandering with negative thoughts, after becoming face to face with failures. People need to understand failure is not the end of the world but it’s an another chance to try and get what you craves for. people need to channel positive vibes into themselves and rewire themselves for positivity and happiness.
- Re – focus
After seeing yourself failed in your quest don’t get upset from it but use this as an opportunity and try to build yourself up from scratch and focus on those goals which you set for yourself in the first place, improvise your strategies and go for it.
- Be patient
People try to get something very badly and even with multiple tries still they didn’t succeeds. People often forgets somethings come with time and how much you try these things won’t come before their time. Try to keep your patience and try your hard each time more than the last and ultimately you will be the winner, remember slow n steady wins the race.
- Converse with friends and family
The hardest thing is for everybody is to take help at the time of need, but we are hard wired to do everything on our own but thats not true everybody requires a helping hand in rough times, ask for help from your friends and family. they have a good view at your problems as they are not involved into it and they can give you some out of the box suggestions too.
- Others are there facing these issues
While all people have some issues in their life, people tend to think they are the only suffers from it but no with that big population, there are many others who are suffering from the same trauma as you are. Some of them had overcome these problems already, try to connect with them using online portals such as yahoo answers, quota, reddit and many more. I am sure their suggestions and advices will be very much helpful to you.
- Meditate
Meditation is the best method to cool your mind and helps to re-establish your focus back to your goals. This not only cools your mind. But also increase your will power and opens you mind to new experiences which will help you grow more.
- Always Keep believing in yourself and say these words Yes I Can Do It
never let negative thoughts come into your mind as it will de moralise you from within. Always trust yourself because you know more than you think.Always chant this “Yes I Can Do”, this will help you maintaining your self-confidence in you as well as keeping you on the right track.
Nothing starts working in a snap, same goes with these techniques as well. you need to keep practising these techniques on daily purposes not all of them but at least two of them.
With patience and practise you soon will overcome any obstacle in your life and never forget
“An arrow can only be shot by pulling it backward.
When life is dragging you back with difficulties, just imagine that it’s going to launch you into something great”
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